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Chrissy Teigen has given a raw and personal look at her recent pregnancy struggle that ended in the loss of her baby. In doing so, she bravely told a story that is achingly familiar to millions of parents.
October is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. It was established in 1988 to recognize the unique and lasting grief of the many, many families who have suffered such a tragedy.
Loss of a baby may be one of the most overwhelming and devastating things you ever experience. But know that you don’t have to endure it alone. When you’re ready, there’s a caring community prepared to support you with open arms and understanding hearts.
A Shared Heartbreak
Regardless of age, stage or number of weeks, the pain of loss is devastating and real. There are many reasons a pregnancy ends, and nearly all of them are out of an expectant mother’s control.
A miscarriage is usually defined as the loss of a baby before the 20th week of pregnancy, and stillbirth is the loss of a baby at 20 weeks of pregnancy or later. According to the CDC, each year about 24,000 babies are stillborn in the U.S.
Many women who experience infant loss go on to have a healthy pregnancy later. But it’s important to give yourself the time, space and grace you need to physically, mentally and emotionally recover. One way to do so is to seek advice and support from parents who have been there.
When a loss is new, connecting with others may be the last thing on your mind. But many parents discover that a shared burden is a lighter one — and one that so many others have carried.
Connection Helps Heal
After a pregnancy loss, many women suddenly hear stories from friends and relatives of their own losses. In reality, this very common shared experience is rarely discussed. There has long been a stigma or sense of shame associated with the loss of a baby that is undeserved. The term “miscarriage” itself implies that an expectant mom made a mistake — which is hurtful, untrue and unfair.
Pain and grief can cause us to turn inward, but bringing feelings into the light can be critical to the coping and healing process.
If you know someone who’s struggling through a time of grief, you might feel helpless, but your loving and patient presence can mean a lot. Some of the best ways to support someone who’s experienced the loss of a baby include:
Checking in over time, beyond the first weeks
Genuine empathy for the family
Open, judgment-free listening
Respect for the grief process
Sharing of your own story
Validation of the loss and the feelings it causes
Resources and Support
After you experience a loss, avoiding isolation, hearing the stories of others and sharing your own story can be powerful and provide much-needed hope. There are many options — from books, to counselors, to support groups — when you’re ready for them.
Your local women’s care team at AdventHealth can connect you to health care resources and peer-to-peer programs to help your family heal after pregnancy or infant loss.
The March of Dimes offers a free booklet on coping with pregnancy loss, stillbirth or the death of a baby at or after birth.
The MISS Foundation is an international 501(c)(3) volunteer-based organization providing C.A.R.E. (counseling, advocacy, research and education) services to families experiencing the death of a child.
The Star Legacy Foundation is a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization dedicated to reducing pregnancy loss and neonatal death and improving care for families who experience such tragedies.
Share Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support is a community for anyone who experiences the tragic death of a baby, including parents, grandparents, siblings and others.
The Compassionate Friends provides personal comfort, hope and support to those experiencing the death of a son or a daughter, a brother, a sister or a grandchild, and helps others better assist the grieving family.
Centering is a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization dedicated to providing education and resources for the bereaved, with over 500 resources for children and adults.